Auntie Em's Guide to Life

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Auntie Em’s guide to life

on July 31, 2012

Hello Dearies; I’m so glad you are here! Auntie Em has learned a thing or two along the way and is happy to share them with you, so you don’t have to learn the hard way! (And now I’ll switch to first person!)

BE HONEST

Jeremiah 17:9 says “The heart is deceitful above all things. Who can understand it?” Surely everyone knows your life will be easier if you are honest with other people. (Who can remember what they told to whom? Not me!) The trick is to be honest with yourself. People were fooling themselves back in Jeremiah’s day and we are still doing it. Have you seen women of a certain age wearing Spandex when they shouldn’t? Singers on American Idol who thought they were good? What about teachers who make a big to-do list at the beginning of summer, and when school starts, it’s still undone? (OUCH!) Deceiving ourselves can go from the frivolous (like Spandex or size 6) to much more important issues, like our weight’s effect on our health, or addictions, or bad relationships. Once you uncover your warts– a painful process– you can deal with them honestly. You might decide to still eat the brownies. But you’ll do it with open eyes.

EXAMINE YOURSELF

As long as we’re talking about honesty, this is a good time to say- examine yourself. Have you thought about why your dad’s not telling you about his out-patient surgery hurt your feelings? (My “rules” say you must share health concerns.) Have you been cranky and not known why? (I’m cranky when I’m cold. I get colder than a lot of people, so I know to bring a jacket, or if I’m on a car trip with Mr X, a blanket too.)

KNOW YOUR RULES; KNOW THE RULES; KNOW THE DIFFERENCE

My rule: My girls had to have dresses that I made at Easter when they were little. (This caused some stress for me!) THE rule: They need to be in church on Easter (and regularly) and it really didn’t matter even if it’s a new dress or not! Don’t get too hung up on YOUR rules.

BE FRUGAL

The “Tightwad Gazette” (Amy Dacyczyn) has had a significant influence on my financial life. In our world, “frugal” means getting the value that YOU determine is valuable. You save where you can, intentionally, so that you can decide what you want to do with your money. (We did piano lessons for 2 children from grades   1-12 but didn’t have cable TV until the youngest was 9 or 10.) We are also Dave Ramsey followers- don’t borrow money except for a house.

DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT (Don’t fall for advertising.)

Contrary to what TV ads say, every woman does not need professionally colored hair, salon nails, a tattoo, a fake tan, and the latest shade of the color-du-jour shoes. And it really IS possible to live on one income while caring for preschool children. Now I have a very fashionable friend who likes to buy inexpensive, trendy accessories, but she saves her bigger money for wardrobe staples. And I have some friends who don’t want to put a hold on their careers and feel like their career/child situation is in balance (usually with the help of a lucky grandma!). But your money (or time, or energy) can do only one thing. YOU get the facts and decide.

LET THINGS GO

You have control over one thing. You.

EXTEND GRACE

I love 1 Corinthians 13, the love chapter.  “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” (v 7) So very often, my students get all upset because of something a friend did or didn’t do, or say, only to find out later that their friend was preoccupied, or didn’t see them because they didn’t have their contacts, or were upset because their parents just announced a divorce. If we can jump FIRST to the conclusion that some offense is not about us, we will be much happier.

BE KIND

I don’t know why I’m still surprised when I find out that somebody who appears to be fine is actually dying inside. I’ve seen it so many times. Be kind to people and give them a break. You never know what’s going on in their lives.

USE REAL BUTTER (and the best ingredients possible)

Self-explanatory. Except it holds in all other areas. I have Wusthof knives and will never need to buy any again.

PLANT THINGS IN PLACES THEY WILL BE HAPPY

Azaleas will get big, and they have a natural shape. Don’t try to make them small hedges. You’ll work yourself to death and they won’t reach their potential. (This theory works with children too.)

AMEND YOUR SOIL AND USE MULCH

Fertilizer won’t help too-sandy soil. And the Texas sun will dry up your beds in a day if you don’t mulch. Weeds will spring up too. (Good relationship rule too, with kindness and love being both the amendment and the mulch!)

ASK YOUR HUSBAND WHAT YOU CAN DO TO MAKE HIM FEEL LOVED, AND DO IT

Guys are weird different and sometimes hard to understand. Reading books like John Gray’s Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus and Gary Smalley’s The Five Love Languages will give you lots of insight, but you still need to be a student of your husband and ASK him.

MAKE YOUR HUSBAND YOUR FIRST EARTHLY PRIORITY (not your kids)

They will leave. He will not. (hopefully both) They will also be set up for good relationships when Mom and Dad have a good one.

GET A BOARD OF ADVISORS

Swallow your pride and pick some people you admire. Let them mentor you. HINT: They don’t even have to know they are doing it; in fact they might not even be alive! Look at different areas and see who you admire- fashion, decorating, spirituality, marriage, child-rearing, etc.

READ YOUR BIBLE

You will find many mentors in the Bible. Even if you are not a believer, you can’t go wrong! Love one another- Do unto others as you would have them do unto you– The borrower is slave to the lender– Don’t let the sun go down on your anger– etc. You’ll see lots of guidance on what to do, but also plenty of “what not to do” (David did what?), and how God will forgive ANY sin and still use you in marvelous ways.

So there you have it. Auntie Em’s guide to life.

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26 responses to “Auntie Em’s guide to life

  1. I love this! I am reblogging! I know you won’t mind…:))

  2. Reblogged this on simplyjuliana and commented:
    This is a great new blog that I highly recommend! It is well written, informative and entertaining! Thanks for sharing, Auntie Em!!

  3. Thank you sharing this blog Juliana, you are right – Auntie Em, you have the gift of words! I look forward to adding you to my daily devotional readings…Blessings! Patty

  4. LubbyGirl says:

    OK – major wow here. Great advice for me – thanks so much!

  5. [...] might wonder why I’m tagging marriage in this recipe post. It’s because “Speak your husband’s language” is one of Auntie Em’s rules. One of Mr X’s love languages is acts of service. [...]

  6. Jason Cole says:

    I absolutely love this!!! You didn’t learn this of your own will. God has revealed these things to you; thereby granting you wisdom in doing so. I love this, thank you for posting!!

  7. simplyhelpinghim says:

    This is great! :) Thank you for sharing and linking up at Simply Helping Him! Blessings!

  8. Rejoycin says:

    This is great! “USE REAL BUTTER” thank you– I am coming back to this. D

  9. [...] 2. If a friend is short with you, doesn’t wave at you, or doesn’t return your call, ask yourself if that is unusual for them. If so, assume (once again) it’s not about you; maybe she has a headache, or she needs new contacts (Is she over 40 LOL? Vision nightmare!), or she forgot. If that behavior is normal, why would you expect anything else and get upset about it? Extend grace. [...]

  10. Stopping by from UBP 13 and I enjoyed my visit.

    Fondly,
    Glenda
    (Link # 59)

    ps. Great tips. Use real butter … made me laugh.

  11. Stopping by from UBP, and oh how I LOVE real butter!!!

  12. Hi Auntie Em,

    I’m Shari from Leaving A Legacy. I’m stopping by from the Ultimate Blog Party. We’re contributors together at A Biblical Marriage. I’m so glad I was able to visit your blog home. You have some great advice!

    Blessings~
    Shari

  13. Amy Patton says:

    Love your guide to life! so very true. Enjoyed my visit. I will be back! Amy

  14. Aww such a beautiful post!
    Really hit me where I am struggling today. Struggling so much and with so much that my insides quiver as I pray.
    Thank you for sharing.
    I’m visiting from the UBP blog hop.
    It’s nice to meet you.

    • Auntie Em says:

      Thank you so much; I’m very glad this touched your heart. Keep praying, and please come back. Hopefully I will have some other word that minister to you. So very nice to meet you too!

  15. Hi there, i read your blog from time to time and
    i own a similar one and i was just curious if you get a lot
    of spam feedback? If so how do you prevent it, any plugin or anything you can
    recommend? I get so much lately it’s driving me mad so any help is very much appreciated.

    • Auntie Em says:

      I don’t get much here, but get more at A Biblical Marriage. I guess the Spam filter catches a lot. I have my comments set to approval and I just delete them– don’t know anything else to do!
      Thanks!

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