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More Lessons on Marriage from the Garden

on June 28, 2013

Lessons om Marriage from the Garden

School has been out for 3 weeks and I’ve been working, working. working in my yard and garden! I’ve learned some lessons about gardening, and many of these translate to marriage really well. (If you missed the first “Lessons on Marriage from the Garden,” you can read it here.)

1. Don’t procrastinate!

Thugs like this will set seed and then the weeds in your garden will be like Medusa’s head. Remember, you cut off one and 7 more grow?

Don't procrastinate!

I like the old saying “One year’s seed is seven years’ weeds.” Pull up those flowering weeds early, and if you can’t dig them out, at least break off the flower heads before they go to seed. I’ve never used a pre-emergent herbicide but if it prevents seeds from germinating in the first place, even better.

out of control weeds

Don’t procrastinate in your marriage, either! Have you ever put off doing something for your spouse because you were doing something for someone else? (GUILTY!) How about avoiding talking about a problem in hope that it will go away on its own? Some problems are compounded and made much worse when you put off dealing with them.

2. Procrastinate! Be patient!

I planted bush green beans for the first time this year. A little 4×4 square gave us enough to eat green beans about 4 times a week for 3 weeks. (I don’t get tired of them!) According to the rules of square foot gardening, you’re supposed to rip plants up as soon as they are past their prime so you can replant immediately. Bush beans, unlike their climbing cousins, are supposed to give one big harvest and then be done. But when that time came, it was the last few weeks of school, and I just didn’t have the energy or time to do it. Lo and behold, I’m getting a 2nd harvest. Not as big as the first, but a decent one.

Be patient in your marriage, too. There have been times when I was about ready to throw in the marital towel, right over Mr X’s head, but I’m so glad I didn’t. At our 32-year mark, he has matured into the most caring, thoughtful husband. Our relationship is the foundation for every other relationship, and is such a source of strength and joy. There is nothing so rewarding as having shared stories, histories, children, and family.

3. Keep alert.

It’s easy to overlook things in the garden. Sometimes fruit hides under the leaves and unless you get down low and move them aside, you will miss them. I hadn’t even seen flowers on this okra, and found it only when I was down planting something in a neighboring bed.

okra surprise

It’s really easy to miss cucumbers! Mr X likes them very small, like the bottom one. I’ve let them get so big I had to cut them up and put them straight in the compost pile.

Pick cucumbers before they get too big.

And sometimes something besides a veggie is hiding among the leaves, like a wasp. OOPS. Allergy to wasp stings discovered!

wasp sting allergy

Be alert in your marriage too. Things can lurk undetected — resentment, neglect, selfishness to name a few– and if you aren’t watching carefully and “weeding them out” as they appear, they can grow and get out of control.

A marriage, like a garden, can be a source of delight. But neither just happen on their own. After the wedding/planting, you’ve got to constantly maintain it. And in marriage and the garden alike, dealing with little problems as they happen can save lots of time and heartache later!

The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.

Genesis 2:15

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11 responses to “More Lessons on Marriage from the Garden

  1. Pamela says:

    Ouch. That looks painful. But better a hand than a marriage. I like the analogy. So, so true.

  2. My hubby, the non-gardener and I have just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. I loved your tokens of wisdom between marriage and gardening. Too often the weeds grow rampant in the garden and in marriage. Thanks for the great bit of writing!

  3. What a lovely comparison. My husband has been tending our garden for 3 years now, and it has been a microcosm of life wisdom. We also read Proverbs daily, and sometimes he has applied those truths to the garden with great success. And to life with great success. God designed us to work, even before sin came into the world. Sin makes work harder, and less pleasant, and full of weeds, but God also gave us wonderful wisdom and guidance on how to complete our work his way. This is such a great reminder. Thanks so much for writing this post.

  4. I really like this analogy!

  5. Oh boy – don’t procrastinate, huh? (sigh) Robert is a “do it now” kinda person… Me? Not so much.

    I love the way you’ve used your garden to highlight marriage issues – so true!

    • Auntie Em says:

      Thanks Lori! I can totally relate to the procrastinate gene… I have to fight it. Mostly just to not wait till it can be done perfectly and completely– which is almost never lol!

  6. I love your correlation between gardening (weeds) and marriage. Thanks for linking up over at WholeHearted Home last week. Hope to see you again.

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