I’ve mentioned before how much we love the YouVersion Bible app, with its many translations, languages, and plans available. After Easter I started a new reading plan called “The 7 Laws of Love” by Dave Willis. Day 3’s devotional blew me away! Its message has proved true in my marriage.
[And by “secrets” I’m not talking about things I’m doing that I’m not telling- in our case it was hurt feelings or skewed priorities that we kept quiet about. Just because you don’t acknowledge or talk about a problem doesn’t mean it’s not there. It WILL come out.]
Excerpt from “Love Speaks Truth”
“Jesus famously told us in Scripture that the truth has the power to set us free, and his statement has been quoted in courtrooms, movies, and countless other places ever since. It’s a beautiful thought, but it’s also a powerful truth. When we find the courage to confess our secrets, there is nothing to hinder our lives or our love.
I’ve watched this principle hold true countless times within the relational dynamic of marriage. Trust is vital in any healthy relationship, but the stakes are highest within the context of marriage. Marriage was created by God to be a relationship of complete unity and transparency, so deception of any kind will undermine the foundation of the marriage covenant. I tell couples often, “Your marriage will never be stronger than your trust in each other.”
If a married couple can’t trust each other, they can’t fully function. A husband and wife must operate like two wings on the same bird; if they don’t work together in full partnership, the marriage will never get off the ground. Trust makes that possible. When we replace trust with secrecy, we’re erecting invisible barriers to limit the growth in our marriages. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.
When a problem is hidden, there’s nothing you can do to fix it. Once it’s out in the open, the healing process can finally begin.
Until we can look in the mirror and come to terms with our own sins and our own desperate need for God’s grace, we’ll never be able to see ourselves or others through the lens of love. God wants us to have a heart for loving unlovable people because that’s what God did for us. He loved us much more than we could ever deserve, and he calls us to do the same for others.”